As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.

The old saying, You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and moneynot to mention lip burn.

These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:

(1)There is a wide range of men to choose from. You arent limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.

(2)You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. Youll even see a picture of him.

(3)You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.

(4)Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.

There are many reasons for the phenomenal growth of online dating sites and the number of people, men and women of all ages, races and religions who use them as their primary source for meeting people and looking for the one.

If you dont believe me, just ask your friends in the real world. If they are honest, most of them will tell you they have or are using an online dating service.

Here are three good reasons why thousands of people sign up for dating services everyday:

(1)You can be anonymous. You will never be required to give your real name, address, email address, phone number or place of employment to another online user. You, of course, may do so but only at your own discretion and only when you feel completely safe. You are not required to post a picture of yourself. Posting a picture, however, will get more responses to your profile. So you can surf through the other members on the dating site you have joined with complete anonymity.

(2)You have so many more choices online that you do in your brick and mortar world. Before the world of online dating came of age, the choice of friends and even of lifetime partners was limited to those we came in contact with through college or work. No morethe world is your oyster. You can go through hundredseven thousands of profiles to find the right man for you.

(3)The safety factor is the biggest reason of all. An online dating service will never reveal your personal information. You get to choose who has that information and when they have it.

1.Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful.

2.Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the feel good factor. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.

3.3. Compliment herand do it often and sincerely. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say thank you. Do Not be self depreciating.

4.Listenlisten.listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. Works wonders!

5.Dont be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isnt responding to you. If she isnt interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach.

6.Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting.

Dont try to go too fast. Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.

What is that women want, you ask? Thats the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and dont want.

Women want a man to be confidentNOT an arrogant jerk. Theres a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you dont need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They dont want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They cant live up to that expectation.

Women want a communicator. The strong silent type really isnt appealing at all. They think you probably dont have an original thought in your head and you probably havent heard a word they said, either or that you just dont care what they said or didnt even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.

Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They dont want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.

You wouldnt give your name, address and phone number to a strange man that you met in a bar or on the street so you should never do that online either. Play it safe. Get to know this man who could turn out to be Prince Charming before you give out any information that could make it possible for him or others to trace you. Dont tell a stranger exactly where you work. Say that you are a legal secretary (if thats what you are) for a mid-sized law firm.not that you work for Brown, Smith and Jones Attorneys-at-law. It is safe to tell him what city you live in but you should wait to be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging emails for awhile.

Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong to. Most offer chat and private email on their site. Do not give out your isp email address. If you must give out an email address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your isp address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the trouble.

When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first meeting in a public place and during day light hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for one to call you on your cell soon after the arranged meeting.

Rememberyou ARE in control so do not let anyone pressure you into revealing more personal information than you are comfortable with revealing.

It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers. The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, dont do it. You dont know what they want to use it for.and you had better believe they want to use it for something. That something will not be for your benefit. Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment. Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.

Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship.they are looking for financial help.

If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware. If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth.

A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you arent ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.

Consider online dating. You have the opportunity to read hundreds of profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in search of that someone that will be right for you. Maybe he will live in the same city you domaybe he will live across the country or even in another country altogether. You arent limited to only those men that you come in contact with personally. The possibilities are almost endless.

Is online dating safe, you ask. Arent the online dating sites made up entirely of perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes in assorted shapes and sizes? the answer is, no they arent. Not anymore anyway. That was true when online dating first came on the scene but now it is mainstream. Its as safe as you make it using common sense and sound judgment. Use the same caution that you would when meeting any stranger. Dont give your real name, address or phone number until you feel safe doing so. Dont rush into a face-to-face meeting until you are confident and then make the first meeting in a public place and during daylight hours. Give it a tryMr. Right might be a few mouse clicks away.

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I dont recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you arent satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you are all set. Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts youand do so promptlynot, however, on holidays or weekends. You dont want to appear that desperate. Dont give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you. New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

Once you have joined an online dating service, you will find that there a lot more men than women and that the men are much more likely to browse profiles and make initial contacts than women. Yes, its a womans worldstill. Its traditional for men to make the first move. It always has been and it always will be. Some things never change. Thats why your profile and picture are so important.

Rememberconfident and interesting.and that does not translate to cocky and self-centered. Its important that your profile lets people know that you have friends you care about and that you are passionately interested in a variety of thingsnot JUST sports. Another thing about that all-important profile.please dont start it with, Im the guy your mama warned you about.

You will have just shot yourself in the foot with that line. Another one to never use is, I could be the man of your dreams. The lady HOPES you are but she will be the judge of thatso dont insult her intelligence. Remember.exude confidence and interesting and you will find that lady you have been looking foror she will find you.

Wont it be nice to have the ladies contacting you instead of you having to do everything? If you write a great profile that stands out in the crowd, that will happen.

That is just no longer the case. All the stigma of online dating is gone. Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.

Lets face itwe are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the one. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money. We use the internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications.

Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships. Its easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. Youll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied.

Join one or two. Then youll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts. That really is all there is to itthat and patience.

Dont wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life. Miss or Ms. Right could be only a few clicks of the mouse away.